Healing and Self-Growth Are Vital

It has been some time since I felt ready to write a blog. I was going through a period in my life where I was trying to overcome some bad habits, heal from past hurt, and learn to focus on myself and the goals I have always talked about here on my blog. 

During this process, I did not even log into my website. Now from a business standpoint that was terrible, but for me personally, it is exactly what I needed. Once logging back in today, I started to archive and remove many of my blogs that talked about where I was in life in my relationships and such. Then I decided to leave all of my past blogs alone. They are part of my journey, they happened. I would like to think I learned something in each of those situations and it has made me a stronger person. 

During this time of self-growth, where I stepped away from my blog and a big chunk of social media for a bit, I discovered some amazing things.

I have learned all of the skills to grow into the woman I am today through therapy. I am a firm believer that sometimes you just need someone to talk to that can help give you the skills needed to work through things that are hindering you. 

Self Love was always very hard for me. I have always felt that I am not enough and worthy of anything. That I am here to be a helper and fixer. It has taken me some time to understand that I can be there for others as a friend and not need to fix whatever situation they are in. I can just be there for them. The huge skill for me to learn though is that it is ok to put myself first. If I am finding myself stressed or overwhelmed and I need a little time, it’s ok to say no to an invitation or event in order to allow myself that time that I need.

Another skill that I have struggled with is being a people pleaser. I want everyone on this planet to like me. I am a good person who strives to do for others before myself. To be there when someone needs something, I try to always do what I feel is the right thing and although these are great qualities let's face it, not everyone is going to like you. I have gained so much confidence that I make all of my decisions for myself now. With that comes the fact that not everyone is going to like or approve of my decisions or choices. But guess what they are my choices to make. This is my life and I am going to live it being healthy and happy. If others disapprove or choose to gossip about me then that is on them not me. I can only control my own actions thoughts and emotions. How they choose to view my life or situation is on them.

I have privately been working on that project I spoke about in past blogs. I am so excited that the project is very close to being complete and ready to share with you all. I am thankful that I took the time needed to step away and make it happen. 

I am excited about where things are going in my life. Life has a way of throwing curve balls at you and I had many of them so far this year. But I have embraced them and become a better version of myself because of them.

If you are struggling in a place where you feel unworthy of happiness, take some time to reflect on where you have been and how much you have already overcome in your life. It is so easy to look at life from a negative perspective, it is much harder to learn how to look at the good and bad from a positive perspective, but it is totally possible. I am living proof that if you put in the hard work to create that life for yourself it is possible. 

I am here to help you get there as well.